Debra Diamond
You may not be clinically dead in order to have a Near Death Experience(NDE); in
fact, many people return to consciousness permanently transformed--often in
positive ways, sometimes in confusing ways that may not be understood for years.
For the first time,
Life After Near Death reveals new evidence of:
A practicing psychic, and a popular writer and speaker on spirituality, NDEs and psychic development, the author is a frequent presenter at Health and Wellness events, and leader of intuition development workshops. Debra Diamond said, "An NDE can bring on baffling, frightening and even dangerous aftereffects. I talked to men and women who spent years trying to adapt to this new world they were thrust into. On average, it takes experiencers seven years to adapt to the changes brought about from an NDE. On the other hand, we all have the potential to have a transformative experience. Perhaps not an NDE, but an STE--a spiritually transformative experience—that can lead to an improvement in the quality and purposefulness of our lives."
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Debra Writes*:
.Why
You Don't Really Want to Experience an NDE
When people hear about the research I'm doing into NDE's, they often ask,
"How can I have one of those?" NDEs sound so appealing.
I must confess I'm mystified by the desire for this experience. After
working with NDErs, hearing their stories and learning about their lives
afterwards, I just shake my head when I'm asked this question. I often think
that perhaps I didn't do a very good job of explaining this phenomenon. "Be
careful," I always say. "Having an NDE is serious business."
NDEs are not just a simple matter of boosting dormant ambitions. It's not
a reversible thrill-ride and it's certainly not a "walk in the park." The
experience entails permanent and hazardous separation to another realm and
there's no turning back. In most cases, it involves nearly dying.
And that's not the least of it. There are problems when experiencers
return—problems that can't be corrected. An NDE can bring on baffling,
frightening and even dangerous after-effects. If you listen to an account of a
personal journey, you'll hear one story but if you peek behind the curtain,
you'll hear another.
One after another, experiencers related how they quit their jobs, left
their spouses, contemplated suicide, embarked on self-destructive behavior and
questioned their lives, following their NDEs.
Physical trauma—chilling enough—is only one aspect of the experience. The
emotional and mental burden is where things gets sticky. In this book, as you
read the cases, no doubt you were thinking, "Why they're prodigies! What I
wouldn't give to have some of that!" But let me assure you: You're only looking
at the silver lining of a very dark cloud. There's a price to pay for the
experience. Here's why.
Most experiencers return with a sense of isolation. They've changed to
their core. And it's not the kind of shift you can easily adapt to. It
fundamentally reprograms you and there's no way to get back to the old way of
life. No how-to books to consult, no magic pill to take.
You might be able to tell your friends or family you went to heaven and
met God or had a conversation with your dead grandmother, but if you mention
that you now get psychic messages and see dead people, that's when the
conversation stops.
Then there's the matter of your spouse. You stop eating the types of food
they prepared. You no longer want to watch that favorite television show. You
don't tell them that when you're standing in line at the supermarket or
department store, you know what everyone else in line is thinking. You learn to
keep your mouth shut. Your spouse asks what's wrong and says, "If you only
stayed the way you were, we'd be fine." But you can't. It's impossible.
According to one study at the University of North Texas, 65% of NDEers
eventually divorce.
But wait. There's more.
It's also common for the people you love to simply refuse to accept what you are
telling them. Then there's the issue of mission. Many NDErs know they were given
a purpose during their
experience, but don't remember what it is. The more fortunate ones recall and,
if they're lucky, it's a mission easily applied to earth: music, art, a form of
healing. But many have no idea what they are supposed to do now. All they know
is they're meant to do something, but darn if they can figure out what it is.
Many spend years wandering, struggling with life purpose. Other's
criss-cross the country, seeking an unfathomable answer. Some take odd jobs. Or
no jobs at all. Many experience money problems. They think the next place will
provide a solution to their very deep dilemma. Many never find the answers they
seek.
Then there are the experiencers who had their peek into the metaphysical
realm and found it the most profound and beautiful experience they've ever
known. It offered so much more than this existence. It's not discussed often,
but suicide is actually common among certain groups of NDErs. They long to
return to the world that was so beautiful and perfect. And they believe they
don't belong anywhere, anymore.
Time—keeping track of it, losing their sense of it, operating within our
earthly time frame—
becomes problematic.
"After the experience, right up to this day, I'm disoriented in time and
space as if the NDE erased my capacity to deal with time on earth," Marissa, one
of the NDErs in Life After Near Death,
says.
Many NDErs report an inability to show up when they're supposed to. I
learned early on they have difficulty keeping a schedule or appointments. It
takes patience to work with them.
NDErs are overly sensitive, too, including sensitivity to others'
energies. This sensitivity can result in inappropriate boundaries with friends
or family members and even with complete strangers. This behavior can cause
social problems, such as butting into conversations and saying improper things
at the wrong time.
For instance Robert Bare, an NDEr with unusual physiological proper- ties
once mentioned to me, "Did I tell you about the lady who painted her wall
Chinese Dragon Red?"
"No," I said, shaking my head.
"I was in a Walmart, checking out and I usually try not to let anyone
distract me," Robert said. "But something told me to tell this lady in line that
she painted a wall red."
"So I interrupted her and said, ‘Excuse me, did you just paint a wall
red?'" "Yes," she said. "Was it Chinese Dragon Red?"
"Who are you?" she asked.
"Then a voice said, ‘Please tell her I miss her and love her.' So I did.
I said those words, as I stood behind her in line. They just came out. Then I
left and went out to the parking lot," Robert said, still trying to figure out
what happened.
NDErs sense of smell may be different following their experience. Their
physician may explain this new, unusual sensation as an ‘olfactory experience,'
something I've never heard of before.
One NDEr described her frustration with "real" life: "I feel very
frustrated when I have to read a book to get information, since I already had
access to all information of the universe," she told me. This may sound unusual,
but this experiencer really believes and feels this way.
Something as simple as a conversation with others can be difficult for an
NDEr because much of that conversation now seems irrelevant. Many have
difficulty communicating, trying to put thoughts into words. It can be a
challenge to hold a conversation with NDErs, since many can't hold a thought.
Others have a hard time concentrating. Getting them to focus and read a book, to
stay on task—except for their compulsions—may be difficult. After all, part of
them is out in the universe now. No time or space exists there.
Many others have experiences they decline to discuss—things they can't
explain. For example, some trigger malfunctions in electrical appliances. Some
have darker experiences they don't want to talk about. Experiences like visits
from menacing people from the other side or being taken to other realms at night
when they're asleep. Dark realms they'd rather not acknowledge or mention.
How does this happen? More to the point, what are they supposed to do
with these experiences?
Those who are eager to experience an NDE should consider that NDE
after-effects are permanent. You can't reverse them. They are with you forever,
even when you sleep. You can't escape.
The desire to make it happen
I suppose it's natural for all of us to wish for greater connection. Yes,
searching for greater meaning is perfectly understandable. But let's be real:
NDEs are not the answer and they're not something we can set off to achieve, at
least not by the traditional means in the metaphysical realm. NDEs are not
something you can achieve by reading a book. By watching a DVD or listening to a
CD.
By taking a class or through meditation, yoga, or hallucinogens.
You won't get there by drumming or chanting. It's not possible. And the
best I can tell you is this: You shouldn't wish for one. The effects of these
methods may be useful to heighten consciousness temporarily, but they will never
grant anyone the permanent after-effects of an NDE.
Bear in mind that integrating an NDE into your life is done with much
difficulty, if at all. Individuals who learn about NDE gifts are not considering
the realities of life on earth, and how essential they are to our day-to-day
functioning.
All of us operate in this universe and intersect with universal
consciousness every moment of our life on earth. But, NDErs are unique because
they have merged with universal consciousness. An other-worldly consciousness
takes over their lives when they return and they become in a sense, an appliance
for the universe.
One NDEr says, "So many things have changed! Life seems more complex now
because I am aware of another reality that I include in my daily life. It's like
having more work to do every day."
Still want one? Take another look and think it over. You won't ever be
able to go back.
*©2016 Debra Diamond. Reprinted by permission of the publisher. All Rights
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